Thursday, 2 February 2012

Competitive Much?

My husband and I have both always been competitive, okay make that highly competitive individuals.  We both have Type A personalities.  It became VERY clear to both of us today, that so are our 6 yr old son and 3 1/2 yr old daughter.

We like to stay active as a family, and so sports are important to us.  My son has been playing basketball and up until the city decided that there wasn't enough enrollment, my daughter was in dance.  They cancelled her class, which originally was at the exact same time and location as my son's basketball.  I managed to convince the organizer to let me register my daughter into the basketball class for 4-6yr olds.

I had my reservations about letting her play, as she is quite small for her age, and she is the only girl in the class.  Let's just say that any reservations I had, have flown out the window!  I now fear that it is my daughter that will be causing the injury, not vice versa!  She was in there like a dirty shirt!  My husband and I could not believe how she "attacked" the ball and wrestled the boys to the ground to gain control of the ball. 

Now here is where I have difficulty as a parent...

What do you do when you know that a sport calls for assertiveness, and in some cases aggressiveness, but your child seems to be the most aggressive on the field.  I'm not talking aggressive to the point that they are taking out opposing players, but aggressive to the effect that they have absolutely no problem "ripping" the ball away from opposing players! How do you encourage a child to continue to put forth the same effort and energy, while at the same time, giving others on the team a chance?

I mean isn't it the responsibility of the referee/coach to intervene?  I don't want to be one of those parents from the stands coaching little Johnny from the sidelines.

Even on the playground... I cringe every time my child starts to play rough with the other children, even if they are all in it together.  I know that boys will be boys, but what about when not all parents see things the same?  How do I ensure that my "spirited child" does not get labelled as the "brute, bully or hooligan" of the sports field or playground?

Thoughts?

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